Private coaching for women holding a high-conflict case together on their own.
A message lands at 11 p.m. A new filing shows up the same week as a school conference. Your attorney needs a timeline by Friday. One-to-one coaching gives you someone in your corner between legal appointments, built by a licensed psychotherapist who spent more than seven years in high-conflict family court.
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Stacy Bednar, MA, LPCC
Licensed psychotherapist in Minnesota since 2007. More than seven years in high-conflict family court.
You are capable. This situation wears capable women down.
Most women who come to me run households, careers and calendars. Then the separation starts and the skills that always worked stop working. You answer one message and it turns into twelve. You explain yourself and the explanation gets used against you. You walk into your attorney's office with a dozen things to say and walk out without asking the one that mattered.
What's happening around you
Messages written to bait a reaction. Demands that change after you agree to them. Filings that arrive without warning. Screenshots, emails and documents spread across two phones, a laptop and a kitchen drawer.
What's happening inside you
Your body stays on alert even on calm days. Sleep goes first. Your memory gets patchy, which makes you doubt yourself. Decisions you would have made easily a year ago now take days, or get made in the worst possible moment.
None of that means you're doing it wrong. It means you're trying to do a professional's job while living inside the stress of it.
I've sat on both sides of this.
I've been a licensed psychotherapist in Minnesota since 2007, working with trauma, anxiety and the way chronic stress changes how people think and decide. Then I spent more than seven years in high-conflict family court myself. I knew the clinical language for what was happening to me. What I didn't have was someone to help me sort the next message, prepare for the next meeting, and keep my body calm enough to do both.
Motion to Rise is the support I wish I'd had alongside my legal team. Your attorney handles the law. Your therapist handles clinical care. I work with you on everything that happens between those appointments.
What we work on together
Every session is built around what's in front of you this week, using five skills that make the rest of the case easier to carry.
Understand the pattern
How high-conflict behavior tends to work: baiting, shifting demands, rewriting history. You learn to spot the move, expect what usually follows, and stop getting caught off guard.
Regulate
Bring your body down before you respond, decide or walk into a meeting. Tools that work at 11 p.m. and in a hallway outside a courtroom.
Communicate
Short, child-focused replies. Knowing which messages need an answer and which need nothing. How to stop over-explaining to someone who will use it.
Document and organize
A record system you can keep in a few minutes a day, with messages, documents, deadlines and open questions in one place your attorney can use.
Prepare
An agenda for every attorney meeting. Preparation for mediation, custody evaluations, guardian ad litem interviews and hearings, within coaching scope.
Before you respond
Recognize what's happening in your body. Investigate what the message says. Select whether to respond, document or ask counsel. Execute, then put the phone down.
How it works
Book a free 30-minute call
We talk about where you are and whether private coaching fits. No case details needed to book.
Start with a Strategy Session
Seventy-five minutes, one on one. We sort what's urgent, what belongs with your attorney and what can wait. You leave with a written plan for the next 30 days.
Continue with ten weeks of private coaching
If you want ongoing support, the private program carries that plan through the hardest stretch of your case.
The ten-week private program
- A 90-minute assessment and plan built around your case timeline
- Private one-on-one sessions across ten weeks
- Weekday messaging support between sessions, for questions rather than emergencies
- Review of messages and documents before you send them or bring them to counsel
- Preparation for high-stakes legal conversations and events
- A 90-day continuation plan, so the structure doesn't stop when the sessions do
Pricing for the Strategy Session and the private program is covered on your free call.
This is for you if
- You're separating from, or already separated from, a controlling or high-conflict partner
- You have a family law attorney or are about to hire one
- You want a plan and accountability, along with someone who understands
- You're ready to work on what is within your control
It isn't the right fit if
- You need therapy or crisis support
- You're looking for legal advice
- Your separation is cooperative and low-conflict
If nothing changes
The messages keep setting your schedule. Attorney hours go to sorting instead of strategy. Big decisions get made in the middle of a stress response, and you keep losing evenings to a case that already takes too much.
What changes
A message lands and you know what to do with it, including when it needs nothing. You walk into your attorney's office with a one-page agenda. Your records take minutes. And there's room again for your kids, your work and your own life while the case is still open.
You don't have to wait for the conflict to end to begin rebuilding your life.
Start with a free 30-minute call. No case details needed to book.
Book a free 30-minute callMotion to Rise coaching is coaching and psychoeducation. It is not psychotherapy, legal advice, legal representation or crisis care. If you or your children are in immediate danger, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
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